There was a time when I would do anything for love. And did. Because I didn't recognize my worth, I suffered from as lack of self love. In my mind, I wasn't good enough. No matter how many men flirted with me or how many people told me I was beautiful,. I just didn't see it. "Why can't I just look like her?" is what I'd be thinking every time a beautiful woman passed by. I thought if I was prettier, I'd attract better men. What a misconception!!
Honestly, in all my relationships, I felt as if he was the prize. I felt like I was lucky that he chose me. That's just how low my self-esteem was. I didn't think I was worthy of anything good so I settled for what I thought was the best I could get. And it turned out that the best I could get kept getting worse and worse. And the worse it got, the less I loved myself and the lower my standards became.
Thankfully, during my healing process, I went through the steps of developing self love. First, I learned the importance of self-love and I began implementing the changes in my life. Once I started loving me, it changed how I saw things. Everything became different...but in a good way. I began seeing my mistakes and bad choices, but instead of seeing guilt and shame, I saw the wisdom I gained from them. I started seeing my shortcomings and toxic traits, but instead of defending them, I saw it as an opportunity to correct them. I started seeing the negative truth about those around me, but instead of holding on to our history, I decided to move on and make history.
The love I gave myself started making things right within me. And the more I changed on the inside, the better I felt about me. The better I felt about me, the more I liked me. And the more I liked me, the more I wanted to know me.
Getting to know me wasn't easy but it helped me to understand myself more. Then, I was able to trust myself more. Then, I began loving myself for being someone I can trust and be proud of. Eventually, that wonderful feeling that radiated on the inside was vibrantly shining on the outside...not only in my.
outward appearance but in every area of my daily life. I was loving me and feeling good about it. For the first time in my life I knew my worth and it felt GREAT!!
Now, I no longer feel as if I'm the lucky one. The truth is, where real love is, that's where the prize is. Love is the prize and you can give it to yourself!!
Learning self-love isn't easy but if I can do it, so can you!!
If you need help getting there, contact me. I'm here for you.